What I find difficult in this world is the questions people ask me or when they think they are the smartest..When they are not openminded...
I grew up in Belgium, a very openminded country..
It is a Christian country (Catholic), but a lot of people don't believe, or don't go to church..
But there are ones who do go..
But no one forces anyone or judges..
I'm not the only foreigner in Belgium.
There are so many people here from over the whole world...
So a lot of religions, cultures, languages are here in one country..
So you just learn to be openminded.
To respect everyone.
And I like that...
I believe what I believe, but I respect other ones believes..
In Belgium, Western Europe, people have some rituals that are more commercial..
I mean like Halloween and Valentine..
And yes the stores use it to earn a lot of money ..
But for children halloween is fun..But it doesn't mean you believe in ghosts or witches..
And in Christianity it is a holiday for all the holy people and dead love ones to remember them and honor them..
But yes horror movies are being watched just for fun...
And Valentine, there are a lot of stories about it, and one of them is about a holy person..
I think every day should be Valentine in your relationship, but love deserves to have her own holiday, because it is something very beautiful!
Love is also very difficult, you are with two persons in a relationship, and sometimes you have to sacrifice to make the other one happy and vice versa!
It's hard work, but so worth it!
In Serbia some people think it is wrong to "celebrate" this "holidays", because there is also a holiday of a holy person Lucas on Halloween and one of Saint Tryphon. So when I told them it is in Belgium also a holiday, they were like no it is pagan.. And Saint Tryphon the Catholic church celebrates 1st of februari and Serbia 14 of februari, because Serbia works with a other holy calendar (the julian calendar)..
I really love history, but they only see the Serbian history and they're scared that this kind of holidays are going to let the young ones forget about the Serbian holidays, but this is not true!
I live in Belgium, and didn't forget any holiday!
I have the best of both worlds, why not embrace this?
So I had a heated discussion on FB.
And yes than it is difficult, I tried to walk away, but the person thought I agreed.
Not really, I respected it..
And then the person tried to make me think the same..
I can't and will not do that.
I always learned to think for myself, I grew up here in Belgium..
But okay at the end, there was peace..
But in Serbia and Bosnia (most in the villages, but also in cities) everybody asks always weird questions or they think they know how you have to live your life. If you don't live them as they do, you're not normal!
I married my husband out of love and to live in Belgium together, not to get pregnant immediately !
That was weird for people even for some in Belgium.
The funny part in Serbia/ Bosnia it was weird getting married and having no children immediately and still not after three years of marriage.
And in Belgium it is weird getting married at 23 years...
So this is how those two worlds work..
You're everywhere a weirdo haha!
Than I started to study nursing school. A bigger shock in Serbia/Bosnia!
Than the perception of nursing isn't very positive either not here not in Serbia/Bosnia!
Why it is such an unselfish way of caring of people!
And it is underestimated how much a nurse has to know!
And I would so happy if there would be more male nurses!
So one moment I lost myself.
Everybody was telling me who to be, but I didn't wanted that, and I still do not want that.
I want what I feel.
And the hardest one is when it goes wrong, and you think: " O no they were right", but that is just one difficult moment, and mindfulness helped me to realize when you want something it is normal there are difficult moments, it can't all go easy!
So I accepted that!
And also you have to think what do I want..
This summer I had the same, I love Belgrado, and my parents went and I had to arrange some things there, but Marko couldn't go with me, he had to work.
But I was scared to be away from Marko for so long, we went normally for one week, but stayed two weeks.. Also I didn't went with my parents on vacation since I was 19 years old. So that was 7 years ago!
But it was fun..It wasn't easy, but we survived and grew more to each other, my parents and I, and my husband and I..
So follow your heart and dreams, and don't let fear hold you back!
So it isn't easy sometimes with "difficult people" but I learned in nursing school how to handle difficult patients/people, to be brave and give negative feedback..
Always say it in the "I" person.
Always tell the facts about what happend, what annoys you, what you don't like
Always tell them how they make you feel (angry, sad,..)
Always tell them how you want them to be, act..
And always tell it right away..
Sometimes it helps, sometimes don't, depends how the person acts.
You can't control how other people think/act, so sometimes you have to accept them, but sometimes you better walk away from them if they make you unhappy..
But from some people you can't walk away, but then distance yourself from them from time to time
..
It helps, but trying to change them, is just a waste of time!
I grew up in Belgium, a very openminded country..
It is a Christian country (Catholic), but a lot of people don't believe, or don't go to church..
But there are ones who do go..
But no one forces anyone or judges..
I'm not the only foreigner in Belgium.
There are so many people here from over the whole world...
So a lot of religions, cultures, languages are here in one country..
So you just learn to be openminded.
To respect everyone.
And I like that...
I believe what I believe, but I respect other ones believes..
In Belgium, Western Europe, people have some rituals that are more commercial..
I mean like Halloween and Valentine..
And yes the stores use it to earn a lot of money ..
But for children halloween is fun..But it doesn't mean you believe in ghosts or witches..
And in Christianity it is a holiday for all the holy people and dead love ones to remember them and honor them..
But yes horror movies are being watched just for fun...
And Valentine, there are a lot of stories about it, and one of them is about a holy person..
I think every day should be Valentine in your relationship, but love deserves to have her own holiday, because it is something very beautiful!
Love is also very difficult, you are with two persons in a relationship, and sometimes you have to sacrifice to make the other one happy and vice versa!
It's hard work, but so worth it!
In Serbia some people think it is wrong to "celebrate" this "holidays", because there is also a holiday of a holy person Lucas on Halloween and one of Saint Tryphon. So when I told them it is in Belgium also a holiday, they were like no it is pagan.. And Saint Tryphon the Catholic church celebrates 1st of februari and Serbia 14 of februari, because Serbia works with a other holy calendar (the julian calendar)..
I really love history, but they only see the Serbian history and they're scared that this kind of holidays are going to let the young ones forget about the Serbian holidays, but this is not true!
I live in Belgium, and didn't forget any holiday!
I have the best of both worlds, why not embrace this?
So I had a heated discussion on FB.
And yes than it is difficult, I tried to walk away, but the person thought I agreed.
Not really, I respected it..
And then the person tried to make me think the same..
I can't and will not do that.
I always learned to think for myself, I grew up here in Belgium..
But okay at the end, there was peace..
But in Serbia and Bosnia (most in the villages, but also in cities) everybody asks always weird questions or they think they know how you have to live your life. If you don't live them as they do, you're not normal!
I married my husband out of love and to live in Belgium together, not to get pregnant immediately !
That was weird for people even for some in Belgium.
The funny part in Serbia/ Bosnia it was weird getting married and having no children immediately and still not after three years of marriage.
And in Belgium it is weird getting married at 23 years...
So this is how those two worlds work..
You're everywhere a weirdo haha!
Than I started to study nursing school. A bigger shock in Serbia/Bosnia!
Than the perception of nursing isn't very positive either not here not in Serbia/Bosnia!
Why it is such an unselfish way of caring of people!
And it is underestimated how much a nurse has to know!
And I would so happy if there would be more male nurses!
So one moment I lost myself.
Everybody was telling me who to be, but I didn't wanted that, and I still do not want that.
I want what I feel.
And the hardest one is when it goes wrong, and you think: " O no they were right", but that is just one difficult moment, and mindfulness helped me to realize when you want something it is normal there are difficult moments, it can't all go easy!
So I accepted that!
And also you have to think what do I want..
This summer I had the same, I love Belgrado, and my parents went and I had to arrange some things there, but Marko couldn't go with me, he had to work.
But I was scared to be away from Marko for so long, we went normally for one week, but stayed two weeks.. Also I didn't went with my parents on vacation since I was 19 years old. So that was 7 years ago!
But it was fun..It wasn't easy, but we survived and grew more to each other, my parents and I, and my husband and I..
So follow your heart and dreams, and don't let fear hold you back!
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| "Now, here’s where I love the turn the film takes: Jaden Smith’s Dad, portrayed by his real-life father Will Smith, tells his son when fear is present: “root yourself in this present moment now to sight, sound, smell”. Fear, worry, anxiety is a very ungrounded future based place to hang out, so grounding yourself in the present moment and in the body, mindful of all the senses is perfect!"http://simplyblessed.heartsdeesire.com/tag/after-earth/ |
Always say it in the "I" person.
Always tell the facts about what happend, what annoys you, what you don't like
Always tell them how they make you feel (angry, sad,..)
Always tell them how you want them to be, act..
And always tell it right away..
Sometimes it helps, sometimes don't, depends how the person acts.
You can't control how other people think/act, so sometimes you have to accept them, but sometimes you better walk away from them if they make you unhappy..
But from some people you can't walk away, but then distance yourself from them from time to time
..
It helps, but trying to change them, is just a waste of time!
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